COMPASSION WITHOUT ATTACHMENT

I have been avoiding things that would trigger me. I have been in hiding from the very things that I needed to learn. The point was not about avoiding triggers, but rather about removing attachment. I thought I knew how to do this conceptually, but I noticed a conflict with the sense of sympathy I was feeling. Wisdom seemed harsh, when each of us were on completely different paths. I couldn’t logically differentiate empathy and sympathy. I must find a balance that involves being fully present and empathetic, yet not becoming entangled in the emotional turbulence or narratives.

There may be better solutions of the head, but so far through my time at 4D University, I have understood how I can practice compassionate detachment.

1. I will cultivate a practice of mindfulness, where I observe thoughts and emotions without judgment. I will be aware when I am beginning to weave stories or when emotional triggers arise. I will simply acknowledge these thoughts and gently guide my focus back to the present moment.

2. I will understand my emotional and energetic limits. I will recognize when to step back to preserve my well-being.

3. I will center and ground myself through meditation, and spending time in nature. These help me return to calmness when I feel overwhelmed.

4. I will strive to be a compassionate witness to others' experiences rather than absorbing their emotions. I will be a supportive presence, offering love and understanding, while maintaining my inner balance.

5. I will be kind and gentle with myself. I will recognize my efforts and understand that it's natural to have moments of emotional involvement. What's important is the intention to return to a state of compassionate detachment.

6. I will spend time reflecting on my emotions, and assess what emotions arose in myself and why.